Most children move to their own bed between the ages of 2 and 3, but the right time varies for every child. Some toddlers show signs of independence earlier, while others need more time and reassurance. Recognising your child’s readiness - whether they’re climbing out of their cot or asking for a “big kid bed” - is the first step in making this transition smooth and successful.
Here’s how to encourage your toddler to sleep in their own bed with confidence and comfort.
1. Establish a Calming Bedtime Routine
A predictable bedtime routine helps toddlers wind down and signals that it’s time to sleep. Aim for a sequence such as:
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Warm bath
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Pyjamas and tooth brushing
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A quiet bedtime story
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Goodnight hugs and kisses
Sticking to the same routine each evening builds a sense of comfort and security.
2. Create a Cosy and Inviting Sleep Space
Make your toddler’s bed feel like a special place:
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Let them choose fun bedding or a favourite soft toy
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Use warm, calming lighting like a nightlight
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Keep their room quiet and at a comfortable temperature
A comforting environment encourages your toddler to feel safe sleeping alone.
3. Offer Reassurance and Stay Patient
It’s normal for toddlers to feel unsure about the change. Offer consistent reassurance:
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Gently return them to bed if they get up
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Sit nearby or speak softly if they feel anxious
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Remind them that they are safe and you’re close by
With time, they’ll gain confidence in their new sleep space.
4. Set Boundaries and Be Consistent
While it's important to be supportive, setting clear boundaries helps toddlers understand expectations:
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Explain that they need to stay in their own bed
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Use a reward system like a sticker chart for encouragement
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Respond to night-time behaviour consistently to avoid confusion
Boundaries help your toddler feel secure and understand what’s expected.
5. Try the Gradual Withdrawal Method
If your child finds it difficult to fall asleep alone, try a step-by-step approach:
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Sit beside their bed until they fall asleep
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Move a little further away each night
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Eventually, leave the room before they fall asleep
This gradual method can ease anxiety and promote independent sleep.
Addressing Night-Time Wandering
If your toddler tends to get out of bed and wander, a sleeping bag with feet can help. These bags:
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Keep them warm and cosy through the night
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Allow free movement, reducing the risk of tripping
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Let toddlers pop their feet in or out as needed
This practical solution provides comfort and safety while supporting independent sleep.
Every child is unique, and transitioning to a new sleep routine takes time. With patience, consistency, and a little creativity, you can help your toddler feel confident sleeping in their own bed. These early sleep habits lay the foundation for restful nights and healthy routines in the years to come.
