Why do toddlers bite?
Toddlers have a natural inclination to explore the world around them, and this includes putting anything they can grab into their mouths.
As they develop their first teeth, they may also bite to alleviate teething discomfort. However, when a toddler bites another person, it can be alarming and concerning for parents and caregivers.
While there is no direct link between biting and psychological conditions such as ADHD, a toddler's limited ability to regulate emotions and impulses can lead to biting. When overwhelmed, scared, frustrated, or curious, a toddler may bite to release tension or communicate their feelings.
How should you react when your toddler bites someone?
If your child bites, it is essential to react immediately to prevent further harm. Separating your child from the other person and explaining in a firm, calm voice that biting is not acceptable is necessary. It is also crucial to describe the situation and offer alternative behaviour to teach appropriate social skills. For example, you can say, "You hurt George a lot with your teeth. You bit him because he wanted to play with your toy. If you don't want that, you can just say, "No George." This type of communication shows your child that you don't approve of their behaviour in this situation, but that you don't love them any less. Avoid blaming or shaming your child, as this may escalate the situation and cause further stress.
If your child is overexcited and has bitten as a result, you should provide a safe haven for them to rest. Afterward, you should talk to them about their behaviour and help them articulate their feelings. This allows your child to get to know themselves and their emotions better.
For example, you can use phrases like "I see that you are angry. Stamp your foot on the ground hard” or “I can see that your eyes are closing. You're tired. Let's take a quick break over here" to avoid the unwanted biting behaviour. It is important that you remain calm and do not blame your child, even if it is difficult for you at first.
Preventative Measures
There are steps you could take to reduce biting before it even occurs. Parents and caregivers should be aware of warning signs that may indicate the child is about to bite. For example, if the child is showing aggressive behavior or baring their teeth, it is important to distract them and offer alternative behaviours.
Toddlers can bite for many reasons, such as to express their feelings, to communicate, or to explore their surroundings. Some signs that a child might bite are:
- Biting or gnawing on toys or objects
- Scratching by other children or adults
- Frustration or outbursts of anger
- Angry or aggressive outbursts
- Tiredness or overstimulation
- Difficulties in verbal communication
Observe your child's behaviour closely and talk to them about it. If there is still no improvement, you should visit the pediatrician to clarify whether there are psychological causes. As a rule, your child will stop biting completely within a short time and will learn to express themselves more effectively.
